The core idea of attachment theory is that humans, as social beings, have an innate need to form close emotional bonds and attachments with others. It has profound implications for understanding human relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, and parent-child relationships. 

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Valeria welcomes licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Julie Menanno for an eye-opening conversation about our individual attachment needs. We kick things off by exploring the foundations of attachment theory and what it means to parent with an attachment-focused mindset. The different attachment styles take center stage, shedding light on how they shape our emotional bonds and behaviors.

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They touch on the typical environment for avoidant attachment and why being dismissive with your partner can be a red flag and the pitfalls of relationship advice found online and why it's often based on conflict. Plus, we'll reveal the intriguing fact that only half of our attachment needs are met in our relationships.

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Pre-order Secure Love: 

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Secure-Love/Julie-Menanno/9781668012864 

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You can find Julie on: 

https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ 

https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship 

https://www.tiktok.com/@thesecurerelationship 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQxvG_HhlW-IOp0WJgRBcCg 

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Valeria is on:

https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA 

https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky 

Not Alone Podcast

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What We Talked About:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:30 The attachment theory
• 04:45 Parenting with an attachment mind
• 07:14 The different attachment styles
• 11:24 Disorganized attachment
• 14:02 Attachment style starts in childhood
• 15:44 Couples with different attachment style
• 19:09 Bridging the gap between the different attachment styles
• 23:23 Practice self check-in before reacting
• 25:51 The typical environment for avoidant attachment
• 29:43 Being dismissive with your partner
• 34:59 Triggers can be the small things
• 37:32 Do the work during bond building
• 38:27 The guide to create an attachment friendly environment
• 40:38 Attachment style with your children
• 42:57 Are you an anxious parent?
• 45:39 Men are avoidant, women are anxious type
• 47:43 Can’t masculine and feminine energy co-exist within us?
• 49:21 Does our attachment style affect our feminine/masculine energy
• 51:02 Relationship advice online are enemy-based 
• 53:54 Only half of our attachment needs are met
• 56:43 Ways understand you and your partner’s attachment needs

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