In this heartfelt episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with her husband Gary for an intimate and honest conversation about family life, parenting, and the values that shape their home.
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In this heartfelt episode of Not Alone, Valeria sits down with her husband Gary for an intimate and honest conversation about family life, parenting, and the values that shape their home. Together, they open up about raising their three boys and reflect on how their approach to parenting has evolved over the years. From Gary’s “clairvoyant” instincts about their kids’ genders to navigating the early days of parenthood and finding patience along the way, the couple shares stories that are both funny and deeply touching. They discuss teaching their sons critical thinking in the digital age, the importance of leading by example, and how they stay intentional about what they allow into their home. With moments of laughter, reflection, and even tears, Valeria and Gary discuss what kind of parents they want to be for their boys, and why, in the Lipovetsky household, accountability, integrity, and love are always at the core.
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The Sovereign Child - https://www.amazon.com/Sovereign-Child-Forgotten-Philosophy-Liberate/dp/1544547978
What we talked about:
0:20 - Valeria sets up episode with Gary on raising boys
2:48 - Gary and Valeria start chatting
3:04 - Gary noticing their kids seem smarter
3:58 - Max’s magical birth
4:55 - Finding out the gender of their babies
5:07 - Gary’s clairvoyancy with Jake
6:33 - Max’s gender reveal story
8:46 - Valeria’s mother wanting a girl
9:43 - Experiencing no gender disappointment
10:16 - Honeymoon stage with the boys now
11:52 - Valeria thinking Gary’s takes the lead on parenting
13:08 - Vuori Ad
14:05 - Floatley Ad
17:09 - Finding your parenting style
17:27 - Gary’s motivation when it comes to the kids
20:52 - Not limiting access to the internet, teaching critical thinking
23:46 - “The Sovereign Child” Book
24:45 - Regretting lack of patience with the first child
27:12 - The different relationships with each child
28:25 - Valeria wanting to see more role model dads
30:14 - Lipovetsky core family values
31:16 - Most repeated phrase in the household - “that’s not fair”
35:37 - External validation is very short-lived & won’t make you happy
37:29 - What the boys will say about their dad in 20 years
39:54 - Open House night at the kids’ school
40:48 - Non-negotiables in the household
42:11 - Gary’s favorite “Just the two of us” lyrics
44:27 - Gary preparing kids for the day he won’t be around
47:00 - Crying on the podcast
48:08 - Talking about the business in front of the kids
49:40 - Evolving as parents
50:20 - Gary’s focus on leading by example
Gary is Co-Founder of Valeria Inc. His experience in online marketing started in 1996 and includes social, search and banner advertising, directory marketing, content creation and marketing, ecommerce, advanced data analytics, and affiliate marketing. In 2015 he crossed over into influencer marketing by partnering with his wife, content creator, Valeria Lipovetsky. Working together, they’ve fostered a collective audience of over 6.3M people across Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and Facebook and have curated a team of 16 industry professionals to help serve over 300 brand partners.